Well, i am coming back after a long breeeeeakkkk!! The last I blogged was on 12th November 2004:) From then , till now - life has moved on a lot..rather a LOT.
Just a gist of what happened- I got back from UK in June. It was a happy re-union with all my friends and it felt good to be back in India!!! Well i came back to India for a purpose - i got married in August 2005 to my one n only!!:) Now happily married and settled in Bangalore. Leading life as a family man (as they all say). But then life has not taken a major turn even after marriage - Many said there would be added responsibilities..blah..blah..blah!! But then for me, i was just living with my best friend and thats about it and both of us were immensely happy. It didnt change anything apart from the fact - the rent of the house we are staying had to be divided by 2 now (me and my wife) rather than by 4 - 6:) But then there were too many advantages to get married and being with her coz of which the above said disadvatange became too trifle to be bothered about:)
And wonders of wonders, i am leading a healthy life too now:) Firstly, i started eating food at home rather than the oil immersed, ghee dripping parathas/ sabjis...
Secondly i started going to gym - well this may or may not be attributed to getting married. Well the argument for is that - i started eating a large amount of the HEALTHY food prepared by my beloved and hence started gaining tyres n spare tyres and what not!!!!!! and the argument against is - ::)))))the work load at office reduced majorly and i had to kill time. What better way than spending an hour or so at the gym:)
Thirdly but not the least - I started playing football once again regularly - every day morning from 6:45 a.m. to about 8 a.m. This being more convenient now since i work in UK timings:))) So mornings, i have all the time to myself!!
Well so thats how lifez been treating me or should i say thats the way i have been treating life!
On the MBA front, i took a break last year - dint meet the deadlines and work pressure was to omuch for me to conc on the applications. I have started concentrating on my MBA once again now. The first one was the ISB:) Got shortlisted and had an interview about 3 weeks back. The interview went good but then you never know what is expected of you in such interviews. These are the kind of interviews where you come out feeling on top of the world coz you supposedly performed well, then you chat with ur friend(s) about the iview and suddenly realis - "I could have done better/ I should have answered this in this manner which would have been more impressive" and then you hear experiences of other candidates and lively iviews they had had (thanks to the yahoo groups/ forums:P) and at end of one week, you feel like a total jackass with no hopes of getting through unless the ONE above performed some miracle!! - One of my friends actually told me the same - "tumne apna part kiya - ab har sunday ko church kaao aur bhagwan se bolo admit dene ke liye" (you have done what you can - now go to a church every sunday and ask God to give you an admit)!!
Remaining universities - wel i am stil shortlisting - had attended a session by Tuck school of business and one great learning from there was - there aint much point in sending out applications to 10 - 15 different universities. Rather Shortlist just 4 -5 where you think you have the maximum scope and give in your best in writing the essays to these 5. So i am in Step 1 of the process!!
Well thats it for now...will be more regular now!!:)(hopefully)
Friday, February 17, 2006
Friday, November 12, 2004
Why money is good? - Brian Tracy
The way you think about money will determine how much of it you accumulate more than any other factor. Your attitude toward money affects your emotions and your motivations.
In psychology, money is what is called a “deficiency need.” This means that it only motivates you when you feel deficient in it, when you don’t feel that you have enough. Above a certain level, when you feel that you have enough, it is no longer a motivator. Put another way, when you have enough money, you don’t think about it very much. But when you have too little, you think about it all the time.The effect money has on your emotional life depends on your attitude toward it. If you feel that you have too little, money can become an obsession for you. It can dominate your thinking, feelings and actions. Arguments over money are a major reason for marital breakdown. Problems with money are the primary reason for business collapse, the ruination of friendships and psychosomatic illnesses of all kinds. Its not uncommon for people to even kill themselves over money problems.
The Reality Principle applies especially to matters of money. This principle states that, “You must deal with life as it is, not as you wish it were, or could be.Most people live in a world of partial self-delusion, or even fantasy, with regard to money. They wish, hope, and pray about their financial futures while at the same time, deep in their hearts, they know their dreams will never materialize.In Lewis Carroll’s book, Alice in Wonderland, one of the characters says quite happily that he is quite capable of believing several impossible things before breakfast each day. In the same way, many people believe quite impossible things about money and then they wonder why they are having so many financial problems.
One of the most common obstacles to achieving financial independence is a deep-seated belief that somehow money is wrong and that people who have a lot of it are inherently evil. This belief is not based on any factual foundation. It goes back to early childhood conditioning when the growing child is often told this because of other people’s desire to rationalize away their own financial failures.
The fact is that money is good. It takes money to buy homes, cars, clothes, toys, food and most of the good things in life. Money has an energy of its own and it is largely attracted to people who treat it well. Money tends to flow toward those people who can use it in the most productive ways to produce valuable goods and services, and who can invest it to create employment and opportunities that benefit others. At the same time, money flows away from those who use it poorly, or who spend it in non-productive ways.
Here are two things you can do immediately to improve your attitude toward money:
First, be perfectly honest to yourself with regard to money and to the amount you want to acquire in life. Pretending that you don’t care about money when you really do will only make you unhappy.
Second, begin today to think about all the wonderful things that you could have in your life if you had more money. Then, begin to think of all the things that you could do to increase the amount you earn and the amount you keep.
In psychology, money is what is called a “deficiency need.” This means that it only motivates you when you feel deficient in it, when you don’t feel that you have enough. Above a certain level, when you feel that you have enough, it is no longer a motivator. Put another way, when you have enough money, you don’t think about it very much. But when you have too little, you think about it all the time.The effect money has on your emotional life depends on your attitude toward it. If you feel that you have too little, money can become an obsession for you. It can dominate your thinking, feelings and actions. Arguments over money are a major reason for marital breakdown. Problems with money are the primary reason for business collapse, the ruination of friendships and psychosomatic illnesses of all kinds. Its not uncommon for people to even kill themselves over money problems.
The Reality Principle applies especially to matters of money. This principle states that, “You must deal with life as it is, not as you wish it were, or could be.Most people live in a world of partial self-delusion, or even fantasy, with regard to money. They wish, hope, and pray about their financial futures while at the same time, deep in their hearts, they know their dreams will never materialize.In Lewis Carroll’s book, Alice in Wonderland, one of the characters says quite happily that he is quite capable of believing several impossible things before breakfast each day. In the same way, many people believe quite impossible things about money and then they wonder why they are having so many financial problems.
One of the most common obstacles to achieving financial independence is a deep-seated belief that somehow money is wrong and that people who have a lot of it are inherently evil. This belief is not based on any factual foundation. It goes back to early childhood conditioning when the growing child is often told this because of other people’s desire to rationalize away their own financial failures.
The fact is that money is good. It takes money to buy homes, cars, clothes, toys, food and most of the good things in life. Money has an energy of its own and it is largely attracted to people who treat it well. Money tends to flow toward those people who can use it in the most productive ways to produce valuable goods and services, and who can invest it to create employment and opportunities that benefit others. At the same time, money flows away from those who use it poorly, or who spend it in non-productive ways.
Here are two things you can do immediately to improve your attitude toward money:
First, be perfectly honest to yourself with regard to money and to the amount you want to acquire in life. Pretending that you don’t care about money when you really do will only make you unhappy.
Second, begin today to think about all the wonderful things that you could have in your life if you had more money. Then, begin to think of all the things that you could do to increase the amount you earn and the amount you keep.
Tuesday, October 05, 2004
Chick - Scene??
Well...Came to Edinburgh in high hopes of seeing gorgeous looking babes with amazing figures n even better looking legs n what not...was under the impression that all babes (??) here would be in mini / micro-minis and anything shorter than that, if it existed...!!
But what a surprise to see that 90% of the females here wear pants n formal suitings..and the only ones that are commonly seen in such skimpy dresses (in the pubs mainly) are the English-desis (Indian / Pak babes who have been born n brought up here) and most of them would have this air about them that you would not even feel like giving them a second glance...!!And the babes here are all the sweet kinds and so far i have seen - very few with s*xy figures. And this minority group of "babes" can not be approached..not when they have some 6' guarding them, supposedly their boyfriend rather than her body guard...ahhhhh...Dont stand a chance man in this place. Back in college, used to have this feeling that "patafying" a foreigner is child's play...well...it may be easy ..dont know..but then therez always a chance of a broken nose!! And why risk such things when you know you can sit back and enjoy life just by looking at them...sorry..let me rephrase...glancing at them..!!
Here if you stare at a girl..for all you know, the next moment you would be hearing abuses swung at you from all directions..not by anyone else but by the same girl and her friends...damn!!!
I have got fed up of staring at girls (ogling is a better term i guess)...have lost the enthu after leaving college!!I guess i can safely say i have settled down finally..
Maybe all this has to do with maturity or something of the sorts...or maybe its coz when u have had plenty n plenty of a particular dish, you tend to get fed up of it...
I think in my case it is the latter scenario combined a bit with the former one..You cannot deny the fact that all of us are maturing and all the eve-teasing and whatever used to be done in college/ school..would look really uncouth now..!!We have grown old??? Things have started taking a different perspective...As the age factor creeps in, all of us ( i guess..atleast most)stop looking at girls as mere objects of pleasure :P..the female community starts getting more respect from us..
Think of it...How many of us would actually tease / abuse a girl whom we used to abuse/ tease in college? worse comes to worst we would ignore her right??
Shit man! i am stopping this blog right now...
Vithal dude, sorry i diverged from what you asked me;-) The excitement has died down...I aint any more what I was;-)he hee....
But what a surprise to see that 90% of the females here wear pants n formal suitings..and the only ones that are commonly seen in such skimpy dresses (in the pubs mainly) are the English-desis (Indian / Pak babes who have been born n brought up here) and most of them would have this air about them that you would not even feel like giving them a second glance...!!And the babes here are all the sweet kinds and so far i have seen - very few with s*xy figures. And this minority group of "babes" can not be approached..not when they have some 6' guarding them, supposedly their boyfriend rather than her body guard...ahhhhh...Dont stand a chance man in this place. Back in college, used to have this feeling that "patafying" a foreigner is child's play...well...it may be easy ..dont know..but then therez always a chance of a broken nose!! And why risk such things when you know you can sit back and enjoy life just by looking at them...sorry..let me rephrase...glancing at them..!!
Here if you stare at a girl..for all you know, the next moment you would be hearing abuses swung at you from all directions..not by anyone else but by the same girl and her friends...damn!!!
I have got fed up of staring at girls (ogling is a better term i guess)...have lost the enthu after leaving college!!I guess i can safely say i have settled down finally..
Maybe all this has to do with maturity or something of the sorts...or maybe its coz when u have had plenty n plenty of a particular dish, you tend to get fed up of it...
I think in my case it is the latter scenario combined a bit with the former one..You cannot deny the fact that all of us are maturing and all the eve-teasing and whatever used to be done in college/ school..would look really uncouth now..!!We have grown old??? Things have started taking a different perspective...As the age factor creeps in, all of us ( i guess..atleast most)stop looking at girls as mere objects of pleasure :P..the female community starts getting more respect from us..
Think of it...How many of us would actually tease / abuse a girl whom we used to abuse/ tease in college? worse comes to worst we would ignore her right??
Shit man! i am stopping this blog right now...
Vithal dude, sorry i diverged from what you asked me;-) The excitement has died down...I aint any more what I was;-)he hee....
a passing thought.........................................
"Love is an irresistable desire to be desired irresistably"
Monday, October 04, 2004
My Astrological readings
he he...check the following out. In college, one of those days when i was absolutely jobless, i subscribed to this astrology site of indiatimes - free sampling for 1 week or something of the sorts and i used to get daily mails regarding how my day was supposed to be like ...?????
And once the free time was over, i stopped checking it. Just couple of days back, was cleaning up my inbox and saw the following in the junk mails section. Found it pretty interesting so much so that i almost subscribed to the astrologer..but then decided i would not...was not sure of the authenticity of the same...though many of the things said about me in the following is quite true;-):-)))
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I have come to realize that you do not use the incredible potential which you have inside of you to the fullest and certain of your considerable capacities are completely unused. This is a real shame as I now know that you are someone very
different and that you have immense qualities ! wh! ich are simply not exploited. Your potential is stifled and has been for quite some time now and I think that this is a real waste. In the rest of this letter I am going to give you a precise
example to show you in which situation you are at the moment.
I fully understand how you feel at this time, I know who you are, what you are feeling and how you are living. As way of proof, here are certain aspects of your personality which you are no doubt already aware of but which I wish to you to demonstrate to you just how well I know you: This is what I can sense about you Vineesh. The first point is that, and this is why it will be difficult to convince you about all of this, you are a person with fresh an innovative ideas and are not willing to settle for what others tell you. You have to see things for yourself and if you d! on! 't like what you see or what you hear you will change it. As a matter of fact recently you have been energized by thoughts of exciting changes but have not acted due to fear. You are terrified of failing and making the wrong choice and I think that this stems from the fact that although you don't always consciously admit this but deep down inside you need the respect and admiration of others. I can even say that without a doubt, Vineesh, you are your own strongest critic. You have a tenancy to be too hard on yourself. Your unique perspective in life has been forged from the school of hard knocks,and you know deep down inside that you are better for having gone through what you have endured. I am getting the distinct sense that you are street smart and you value this ability much more than classroom smarts that others may have. I can see that the experiences you had in life have made you a bit more perspective than most . You are wise beyond your years in many ways. This has ! be! en noticed by your family and friends as those who are closest to you say that you are a very fair person and some seek your counsel because of this. Vineesh it's very clear that you are a person of strong moral character and you are trustworthy to a fault. You have actually been in a situation or two because you were perhaps a bit too trusting. I would like to say that I really appreciate your relationship with other people and I have also noticed that you have a certain paradox within you. I will now give you a couple of examples of this paradox. Vineesh, you are an unusually generous person, with the genuine desire to help others, but you also have a bit selfish side. It's this taking care of yourself that allows you to better take care of others. I can also perceive another paradox Vineesh. You believe that telling a little white lie can sometimes be necessary and you don't always tell the truth, mostly because you don't want to hurt the other person's feelings. but at t! he! same time, you have very strong values and definite sense of right and wrong. In this day of questionable characters, you feel grounded by your strong values. I could speak about you for hours Vineesh but what you must retain from all of this is that you have an enormous amount of latent potential which you sometimes come close to realizing as you are often frustrated with the fact that others don't always recognize this or appreciate what you could offer. I can tell you that there is a very strong aura around you and an energy that is truly powerful. I am sensing vibrations from you much more intense than those I experience with most clients. Your intuition and your power may be one reason why you are drawn to astrology readings and psychic experiences. Finally I would like to conclude with another point. You know what you have inside of you and you have known for some time now that you have been given certain talents.... very special talents unique only to you. and while ! yo! u have known of these abilities , you haven't fully acted on them now, have you ? I hope that these few lines have convinced you Vineesh that I strongly perceive who you are and what you are feeling. You already know most of what I have written about however you may not realize to what extent the potential within you is really powerful and here is an example which could help to illustrate what I am trying to tell you. Imagine a person who has never known any modern technology (for example someone living in the heart of a dense jungle). One day this person is given a radio tuned in to a very precise radio station and he finds it suddenly extraordinary to be able to listen to music through what is essentially a small box. He is told that to listen to this music he need only press the 'on' button without having to do anything else to listen to this music. This person thinks this radio is a wonderful invention and then spends a number of years listening to this radio and to the ! sa! me program as the radio stays on the same station all of the time. And then one day someone else comes along and shows him that there are a multitude of other stations and frequencies to listen to with many other programs that can be as interesting as the first.... You are in the position of this person Vineesh and your potential can be compared to this radio. Your potential is not yet fully exploited and you are not yet aware of certain of your hidden talents. I find myself in the place of the person who's duty is to show you exactly how you can tune in to these new frequencies. This is a metaphorical example but it demonstrates clearly the situation in which you find yourself at this time. Considering the important information which I have discovered about you Vineesh, I know that it is possible to help you through this key moment in your life and I also know that this change can be considered as a rebirth of sorts as you are not really who you thought you were - you are in fact much much more than this and you need to want to make this change happen with all of your heart and soul.
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HOWZATT!!!??:-)
And once the free time was over, i stopped checking it. Just couple of days back, was cleaning up my inbox and saw the following in the junk mails section. Found it pretty interesting so much so that i almost subscribed to the astrologer..but then decided i would not...was not sure of the authenticity of the same...though many of the things said about me in the following is quite true;-):-)))
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I have come to realize that you do not use the incredible potential which you have inside of you to the fullest and certain of your considerable capacities are completely unused. This is a real shame as I now know that you are someone very
different and that you have immense qualities ! wh! ich are simply not exploited. Your potential is stifled and has been for quite some time now and I think that this is a real waste. In the rest of this letter I am going to give you a precise
example to show you in which situation you are at the moment.
I fully understand how you feel at this time, I know who you are, what you are feeling and how you are living. As way of proof, here are certain aspects of your personality which you are no doubt already aware of but which I wish to you to demonstrate to you just how well I know you: This is what I can sense about you Vineesh. The first point is that, and this is why it will be difficult to convince you about all of this, you are a person with fresh an innovative ideas and are not willing to settle for what others tell you. You have to see things for yourself and if you d! on! 't like what you see or what you hear you will change it. As a matter of fact recently you have been energized by thoughts of exciting changes but have not acted due to fear. You are terrified of failing and making the wrong choice and I think that this stems from the fact that although you don't always consciously admit this but deep down inside you need the respect and admiration of others. I can even say that without a doubt, Vineesh, you are your own strongest critic. You have a tenancy to be too hard on yourself. Your unique perspective in life has been forged from the school of hard knocks,and you know deep down inside that you are better for having gone through what you have endured. I am getting the distinct sense that you are street smart and you value this ability much more than classroom smarts that others may have. I can see that the experiences you had in life have made you a bit more perspective than most . You are wise beyond your years in many ways. This has ! be! en noticed by your family and friends as those who are closest to you say that you are a very fair person and some seek your counsel because of this. Vineesh it's very clear that you are a person of strong moral character and you are trustworthy to a fault. You have actually been in a situation or two because you were perhaps a bit too trusting. I would like to say that I really appreciate your relationship with other people and I have also noticed that you have a certain paradox within you. I will now give you a couple of examples of this paradox. Vineesh, you are an unusually generous person, with the genuine desire to help others, but you also have a bit selfish side. It's this taking care of yourself that allows you to better take care of others. I can also perceive another paradox Vineesh. You believe that telling a little white lie can sometimes be necessary and you don't always tell the truth, mostly because you don't want to hurt the other person's feelings. but at t! he! same time, you have very strong values and definite sense of right and wrong. In this day of questionable characters, you feel grounded by your strong values. I could speak about you for hours Vineesh but what you must retain from all of this is that you have an enormous amount of latent potential which you sometimes come close to realizing as you are often frustrated with the fact that others don't always recognize this or appreciate what you could offer. I can tell you that there is a very strong aura around you and an energy that is truly powerful. I am sensing vibrations from you much more intense than those I experience with most clients. Your intuition and your power may be one reason why you are drawn to astrology readings and psychic experiences. Finally I would like to conclude with another point. You know what you have inside of you and you have known for some time now that you have been given certain talents.... very special talents unique only to you. and while ! yo! u have known of these abilities , you haven't fully acted on them now, have you ? I hope that these few lines have convinced you Vineesh that I strongly perceive who you are and what you are feeling. You already know most of what I have written about however you may not realize to what extent the potential within you is really powerful and here is an example which could help to illustrate what I am trying to tell you. Imagine a person who has never known any modern technology (for example someone living in the heart of a dense jungle). One day this person is given a radio tuned in to a very precise radio station and he finds it suddenly extraordinary to be able to listen to music through what is essentially a small box. He is told that to listen to this music he need only press the 'on' button without having to do anything else to listen to this music. This person thinks this radio is a wonderful invention and then spends a number of years listening to this radio and to the ! sa! me program as the radio stays on the same station all of the time. And then one day someone else comes along and shows him that there are a multitude of other stations and frequencies to listen to with many other programs that can be as interesting as the first.... You are in the position of this person Vineesh and your potential can be compared to this radio. Your potential is not yet fully exploited and you are not yet aware of certain of your hidden talents. I find myself in the place of the person who's duty is to show you exactly how you can tune in to these new frequencies. This is a metaphorical example but it demonstrates clearly the situation in which you find yourself at this time. Considering the important information which I have discovered about you Vineesh, I know that it is possible to help you through this key moment in your life and I also know that this change can be considered as a rebirth of sorts as you are not really who you thought you were - you are in fact much much more than this and you need to want to make this change happen with all of your heart and soul.
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HOWZATT!!!??:-)
If's n But's...continued
From the responses i got for the last post, all seem to be saying the same thing to me...Dont give out the whole of your heart to one person alone...
A junior of mine (Kicha) commented to me..sayin...Life is like a Stock Market..!!You invest high in just one, the risk of loosing it is extremely high, but then the returns/ gains are also high...So one should believe in diversification and invest in more than one and play the game of life according to ur market value..!!
Amazing right? All of a sudden the "bears n bulls" of stock market started makin sense to me. I guess it is the same, when you try relating things to your life, they start making more of sense.........
Well ...dont know if taking a couple of swigs of beer/ 7. something shots of tequila will help...coz the possiblity of thinking more on the same lines and going deeper into the prob is higher after getting drunk, i guess. After drinking, the whole world shrinks and you feel lots of things running inside your brain..and then a lot of issues which would never have made sense start getting clear in your head..and thus u tend to think more...and come out with more creative n better ideas after getting drunk...and one thing i dont want to think of in such a situation is about LIFE!!No way am i going into a rewind mode and then PLAY everything all over again in my mind...aint crazy..!!so dudes...beer/ tequila aint the solution...
that brings me to ask the question...are all of us happy at any point in our life...why is it that humans (atleast the few i know inclusive of me) are never happy with what they have? When you finish your 12th grade, everyone wants to get into an IIT / REC (NIT) and that is the biggest tension..!!And once you are thru into the reputed institutions...the tensions just increase..one is never at ease..you have the cycle tests (whoever derived this name, should be given an award...the tests just keep cycling n coming back over n over again..you never seem to get rid of it..ever..till u pass out) and then the sem exams..and what not...once into the final yr..everyone wants a job...it does not matter what u did 4 yrs in your college...ultimately you just need a god damn job...and what all lies does one fabricate for the same...!!and there are a few ppl who are trained to teach others to lie/ talk effectively/ look smart n ultimately get thru the iview as well - CIC reps..i was a part of this team as well..(no offence to any CIC rep here..:-))and once you get a job...the World is yours..atleast for the next couple of weeks...
and then you done with college and you step into the corporate world...and shit!! you realise you are in hell!!what seemed so cool n stylish n amazing on the projector screen of your college abt the life in each software campus ..all bollocks..absolute crap..!!the only thing thats true in all these presentations is the infrastructure and nothing else...All dreams of being the one of the cool dudes in your cool company..shattered...your bubble burst, you look ahead...you think of job switches...higher studies..(CAT/ GMAT/ GRE etc), onsite opportunities...and what not...!!Some are successful...while others stay on cribbing every other day about their colleagues, PM's, the company, the corporate system, the project he is involved in and what not!!!!!!!!
Then slowly the marriage comes up...Some are lucky to get the bride of their dreams..while few remaining others just nod to their dad n mom saying "Yes, i agree" over a cup of tea n pastries in their to-be-in-law's house...once this phase is over...then there are tensions of wife / stayin together/ wife working/ children / their future....and what not..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Few others have the responsiblity of getting their sisters (elder / youger) married off into a good family...and God forbid..anything screws up there...then you are the one to be blamed..after all, didnt you find the groom...weren't you supposed to do the checking on the groom n his family...!?? Is the brother the only one responsible for his sister's marriage...dont the parents/relatives have any responsibility???
When will one have the peace of mind that he is so desparately yearning for? When will he lead life for himself and not for his parents/ siblings / wife / children and whoever else that is there in this list?
When will we - each one of us - ever attain a level of satisfaction...when we can boldly say.."I AM HAPPY...I AM SATISFIED..I NEED NO MORE IN LIFE AND HAPPY WITH WHATEVER I HAVE"..and stick on to this statement for atleast 6 months at a stretch. Myself have made this statement humpty number of times...but then the next moment, prob the next day, i reverse my thoughts and start the crib process.............
I guess...this is a never ending cycle...The grass is greener on the other side ALWAYS...Till the day u die...you will keep seeing greener pastures...and would be wanting to be there than where u are currently...We may not agree when someone says "You are greedy"...but think of it...i feel all of us are...wanting more everyday..!!!!!!!!!!
ps. I need a break...i guess i am thinking too much..!:-)
No offence to anyone in the above article. Just a chain of thoughts:-) Peace!!!!!!!
A junior of mine (Kicha) commented to me..sayin...Life is like a Stock Market..!!You invest high in just one, the risk of loosing it is extremely high, but then the returns/ gains are also high...So one should believe in diversification and invest in more than one and play the game of life according to ur market value..!!
Amazing right? All of a sudden the "bears n bulls" of stock market started makin sense to me. I guess it is the same, when you try relating things to your life, they start making more of sense.........
Well ...dont know if taking a couple of swigs of beer/ 7. something shots of tequila will help...coz the possiblity of thinking more on the same lines and going deeper into the prob is higher after getting drunk, i guess. After drinking, the whole world shrinks and you feel lots of things running inside your brain..and then a lot of issues which would never have made sense start getting clear in your head..and thus u tend to think more...and come out with more creative n better ideas after getting drunk...and one thing i dont want to think of in such a situation is about LIFE!!No way am i going into a rewind mode and then PLAY everything all over again in my mind...aint crazy..!!so dudes...beer/ tequila aint the solution...
that brings me to ask the question...are all of us happy at any point in our life...why is it that humans (atleast the few i know inclusive of me) are never happy with what they have? When you finish your 12th grade, everyone wants to get into an IIT / REC (NIT) and that is the biggest tension..!!And once you are thru into the reputed institutions...the tensions just increase..one is never at ease..you have the cycle tests (whoever derived this name, should be given an award...the tests just keep cycling n coming back over n over again..you never seem to get rid of it..ever..till u pass out) and then the sem exams..and what not...once into the final yr..everyone wants a job...it does not matter what u did 4 yrs in your college...ultimately you just need a god damn job...and what all lies does one fabricate for the same...!!and there are a few ppl who are trained to teach others to lie/ talk effectively/ look smart n ultimately get thru the iview as well - CIC reps..i was a part of this team as well..(no offence to any CIC rep here..:-))and once you get a job...the World is yours..atleast for the next couple of weeks...
and then you done with college and you step into the corporate world...and shit!! you realise you are in hell!!what seemed so cool n stylish n amazing on the projector screen of your college abt the life in each software campus ..all bollocks..absolute crap..!!the only thing thats true in all these presentations is the infrastructure and nothing else...All dreams of being the one of the cool dudes in your cool company..shattered...your bubble burst, you look ahead...you think of job switches...higher studies..(CAT/ GMAT/ GRE etc), onsite opportunities...and what not...!!Some are successful...while others stay on cribbing every other day about their colleagues, PM's, the company, the corporate system, the project he is involved in and what not!!!!!!!!
Then slowly the marriage comes up...Some are lucky to get the bride of their dreams..while few remaining others just nod to their dad n mom saying "Yes, i agree" over a cup of tea n pastries in their to-be-in-law's house...once this phase is over...then there are tensions of wife / stayin together/ wife working/ children / their future....and what not..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Few others have the responsiblity of getting their sisters (elder / youger) married off into a good family...and God forbid..anything screws up there...then you are the one to be blamed..after all, didnt you find the groom...weren't you supposed to do the checking on the groom n his family...!?? Is the brother the only one responsible for his sister's marriage...dont the parents/relatives have any responsibility???
When will one have the peace of mind that he is so desparately yearning for? When will he lead life for himself and not for his parents/ siblings / wife / children and whoever else that is there in this list?
When will we - each one of us - ever attain a level of satisfaction...when we can boldly say.."I AM HAPPY...I AM SATISFIED..I NEED NO MORE IN LIFE AND HAPPY WITH WHATEVER I HAVE"..and stick on to this statement for atleast 6 months at a stretch. Myself have made this statement humpty number of times...but then the next moment, prob the next day, i reverse my thoughts and start the crib process.............
I guess...this is a never ending cycle...The grass is greener on the other side ALWAYS...Till the day u die...you will keep seeing greener pastures...and would be wanting to be there than where u are currently...We may not agree when someone says "You are greedy"...but think of it...i feel all of us are...wanting more everyday..!!!!!!!!!!
ps. I need a break...i guess i am thinking too much..!:-)
No offence to anyone in the above article. Just a chain of thoughts:-) Peace!!!!!!!
Friday, October 01, 2004
If's n But's
Just thinking of life as such now...things always seem to happen out of the blue. One can never predict whats going to happen the next moment..it can be anything varying from slippin on a banana peel n cracking ur bones to being made the prime minister of the biggest/ largest democratic country in the world.
Is there any way of knowing what is going to happen to each one of us in the future...it would be fun to know all such things as to whether u would get admission into an IIM (for all the MBA / CAT aspirants)..whether there is a scope for promotion...(for all who seems to love their jobs)...or as to whether u would be in a totally different field..enjoying your work more than ever before..(for all those never-satisfied-guys like myself??)...
Well there are 2 aspects to this whole ideology of seeing the future...i mean..if i knew that 2 years down the lane, i am in a different company doing a better job / enjoyin my work/ earning more...i would obviously loose my interest in doing my present work...y should u slog ur ass off and do all this when u know tat down the lane u r gonna be in a better position.....right?? the argument seems pretty valid to me.. but then think of it in this way...the future u saw may come true only if you continue to work the way u are working right now..? now this looks more or less like printing on one side of a paper "The statement on the other side is TRUE" and on the other side you print "The statement on the other side is FALSE"...?? cool eh??
I for one firmly believe that my actions of today will speak for me tomorrow...what i do today...will have an impact on my life sometime down the lane...it may not be very evident or explicit but then down the lane, you look back at the string of events leading up to the situation, you will realise that it was coz u said a "yes" at some moment (for eg.) that you are in the postion that you are today...and if you had said a "no" to the same situation, for all you know you might not have been in this situation today - be it good or bad...!!
This infact reinstates the theory ..."you are the decider of your own future..of your own fate".......
Life is full of "ifs" n "buts" (mind u single "t" only;-))...and it is the outcome of this "if" loop which decides the output/ solution...in this case your life...
hmmm...the chain of thoughts have absolutely no connectivity..and i have wandered away from what i started i guess...but then its fun just putting into words watever goes thru ur mind...let the mind do the talking...dont think twice..who knows..the time i am spending putting these thoughts down may in some way affect my future....(crossed-fingers..hoping its for the good)...as i continue on my rambling...i am reminded of an eminent personality's words which said something like - Never love your company so much that you feel upset when you are asked to leave , for the company may not be loving u so much....
lets extrapolate this a bit further ...Should we love one person so much so that his/ her loss can affect us real bad?? Loss can be a physical distance...or the person being dead or anything for that matter...does one person alone deserve all the love that you have in ur heart...Should a husband love his wife so much so that a day without her and he would go insane...n vice versa??? should a kid love his mother so much (rare possibility) or should a mother love her kid so much so that a day without her kid n she feels completely incomplete (hmmm...is that an oxymoron now "completely incomplete"?)
How does one know that the person whom he/she loves loves him/ her back as much...
taking my own case...i would be broken if i came to know that any person whom i respected/ loved a lot does not love/ respect me so much..!!i mean..it may look like i am imposing myself onto others...it aint necessary tat everyone be the same as you are...(if that was the case..then the world would have been such a peaceful place to live in)..but is it expecting too much...am i asking for too much?? I have been broken many a times..(often came as a shock to me) when out of the blue, one fine day..i come to know that the person i love/adore/ admire n what not...does not like me...rather hates me...and whatever he/ she was showing...was all farce............
I have had it plenty n enough...dont want anymore of it... I Have had my share of agonies...and i pray all those ppl who are reading this dont go thru what all i have gone thru in the past and have a pleasant...joyful...love filled life..!!
God bless you all!!
Is there any way of knowing what is going to happen to each one of us in the future...it would be fun to know all such things as to whether u would get admission into an IIM (for all the MBA / CAT aspirants)..whether there is a scope for promotion...(for all who seems to love their jobs)...or as to whether u would be in a totally different field..enjoying your work more than ever before..(for all those never-satisfied-guys like myself??)...
Well there are 2 aspects to this whole ideology of seeing the future...i mean..if i knew that 2 years down the lane, i am in a different company doing a better job / enjoyin my work/ earning more...i would obviously loose my interest in doing my present work...y should u slog ur ass off and do all this when u know tat down the lane u r gonna be in a better position.....right?? the argument seems pretty valid to me.. but then think of it in this way...the future u saw may come true only if you continue to work the way u are working right now..? now this looks more or less like printing on one side of a paper "The statement on the other side is TRUE" and on the other side you print "The statement on the other side is FALSE"...?? cool eh??
I for one firmly believe that my actions of today will speak for me tomorrow...what i do today...will have an impact on my life sometime down the lane...it may not be very evident or explicit but then down the lane, you look back at the string of events leading up to the situation, you will realise that it was coz u said a "yes" at some moment (for eg.) that you are in the postion that you are today...and if you had said a "no" to the same situation, for all you know you might not have been in this situation today - be it good or bad...!!
This infact reinstates the theory ..."you are the decider of your own future..of your own fate".......
Life is full of "ifs" n "buts" (mind u single "t" only;-))...and it is the outcome of this "if" loop which decides the output/ solution...in this case your life...
hmmm...the chain of thoughts have absolutely no connectivity..and i have wandered away from what i started i guess...but then its fun just putting into words watever goes thru ur mind...let the mind do the talking...dont think twice..who knows..the time i am spending putting these thoughts down may in some way affect my future....(crossed-fingers..hoping its for the good)...as i continue on my rambling...i am reminded of an eminent personality's words which said something like - Never love your company so much that you feel upset when you are asked to leave , for the company may not be loving u so much....
lets extrapolate this a bit further ...Should we love one person so much so that his/ her loss can affect us real bad?? Loss can be a physical distance...or the person being dead or anything for that matter...does one person alone deserve all the love that you have in ur heart...Should a husband love his wife so much so that a day without her and he would go insane...n vice versa??? should a kid love his mother so much (rare possibility) or should a mother love her kid so much so that a day without her kid n she feels completely incomplete (hmmm...is that an oxymoron now "completely incomplete"?)
How does one know that the person whom he/she loves loves him/ her back as much...
taking my own case...i would be broken if i came to know that any person whom i respected/ loved a lot does not love/ respect me so much..!!i mean..it may look like i am imposing myself onto others...it aint necessary tat everyone be the same as you are...(if that was the case..then the world would have been such a peaceful place to live in)..but is it expecting too much...am i asking for too much?? I have been broken many a times..(often came as a shock to me) when out of the blue, one fine day..i come to know that the person i love/adore/ admire n what not...does not like me...rather hates me...and whatever he/ she was showing...was all farce............
I have had it plenty n enough...dont want anymore of it... I Have had my share of agonies...and i pray all those ppl who are reading this dont go thru what all i have gone thru in the past and have a pleasant...joyful...love filled life..!!
God bless you all!!
Saturday, September 25, 2004
Bad Morning:-((((
Any guesses where I am right now?? IN OFFICE. My first project (though i had claimed in the last mail all was going fine)..well...i guess it was waiting for me to say it and a small screw up happened which was again not our fault but then to get things back in order, it became the headache of ours. So in the early hours of a beautiful (i hope) Saturday morning, Me and my 3 other colleagues - Srijith, Randeep and Vinay are sitting here and trying to get things back in shape.
Just hope that everything goes fine. Life aint that easy eh? Things never seem to go the way we expect them to. And to think of it, today this issue came up just as we were packing up for the day and going back home...damn...a minute earlier and we would all have been happily tucked away in our sweet bed!!Its 6:45 am in the morning and the issue has not yet been resolved.
God alone knows when we will get back..when we will sleep...when i will get up..and GODAMNITT!! WHEN WILL I PREP FOR GMAT!!!!!!!!!!?????????????/
Sometimes , things just dont go the way we want them to...
All of a sudden, I am feeling fed up of this job...My sould thirsts for something more challenging..somewhere where i can use my speaking skills...talk to ppl..interact with them...organise events..where my brain is worked a bit more...All these makes me seriously want to jump into "Event Management". But then, I dont know where i am headed to right now. One thing for u sure i know, that i aint gonna stick to the software industry for long...This aint my cup of tea..no way!!
Damn!!I am drinking my 7th coffee of the night (or should it be morning) in the past 8 hours. What they say seems to be true tat this stuff is addictive. I mean after my 3rd cup, i could not stay off it...i had to have it and go on sippin it to keep me awake. And 10 min away from this, i start feeling drowsy and i mst have my next cup before i sleep off on my desk.......
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Just hope that everything goes fine. Life aint that easy eh? Things never seem to go the way we expect them to. And to think of it, today this issue came up just as we were packing up for the day and going back home...damn...a minute earlier and we would all have been happily tucked away in our sweet bed!!Its 6:45 am in the morning and the issue has not yet been resolved.
God alone knows when we will get back..when we will sleep...when i will get up..and GODAMNITT!! WHEN WILL I PREP FOR GMAT!!!!!!!!!!?????????????/
Sometimes , things just dont go the way we want them to...
All of a sudden, I am feeling fed up of this job...My sould thirsts for something more challenging..somewhere where i can use my speaking skills...talk to ppl..interact with them...organise events..where my brain is worked a bit more...All these makes me seriously want to jump into "Event Management". But then, I dont know where i am headed to right now. One thing for u sure i know, that i aint gonna stick to the software industry for long...This aint my cup of tea..no way!!
Damn!!I am drinking my 7th coffee of the night (or should it be morning) in the past 8 hours. What they say seems to be true tat this stuff is addictive. I mean after my 3rd cup, i could not stay off it...i had to have it and go on sippin it to keep me awake. And 10 min away from this, i start feeling drowsy and i mst have my next cup before i sleep off on my desk.......
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Friday, September 24, 2004
Beautiful Mind...........
The new project is going on full fledged. There is a status update meeting every 2 days with the clients. The last project i did went on successfully (so far) into production environment and today the live data going to be tested. So my first project is a sucess (touch wood).The new one seems to be challenging esp since i am involved in the requiremnt analysis stage.
Never thought that 1 yr into work and i would be doing analysis..and though i have just got into the analysis phase, i am already startin to like development better where your PM / ML (module leader) gives u a KT (Knowledge transfer) and you can just bombard them with questions and keep going back to them for more n more clarifications n doubts. And yeah then there is the development phase which though can get boring is much more challenging than analysis..i guess...;-)In the analysis stage, the only ppl whom u can approach with your doubts are the clients and that , trust me, at times gives u the shivers..the various questions they shoot back at you..and there are moments when u dont know what to answer..for all you know , your colleague working in the same project may have told something quite contradictory to what you are about to say..anyway..Jo Hoga dekha jaayega!!! Hope n pray i dont do any blunders in the analysis stage..coz if i do then this would not be realised till about half way into development and then reverting back from whatever i had commited is going to cost me my job/ my career and prob loss to the company and what not..!!Ok - its not like i am plannin to stick to one company for my entire life span but even then, a sort of commitment to the company u working for right now..after all i am where i am , what i am due to this company as of now..right?:-)
The weekend is here..dont have much plans..my room mates srijith n basu are on-call and in-office respectively. So this weekend i would be spending my time doin my mock tests for GMAT, watchin telly, listening to music and sleepin away to glory.Speaking of Music, been real long since i heard some rock. I believe its the situation, the place where you are, the kind of friends that one has which influences your various tastes in life..be it music, eating habits, the language u use (the slang rather)..when i joined my college 5 years back, i only used to listen to limited Hindi songs, and once in a blue moon English ones (likes of BSB, Bzone etc..) but then once into college, i was introduced into the world of Rock by none other than Naveen Babu Bitla who down the lane turned out to be a very good friend of mine. This guy was probably the only one who heard the likes of Metallice, Iron Maiden etc. in our first yr batch. And i still remember that day when we were havin a party in Adarsh's room. I guess it was his bday (Oct.3)..when this guy walks in . We introduce each other..and then he makes us all listen to the rock that he listens to daily..and lo!!in a span of probably less than 3 months, you had almost an entire batch of students listening to "Nothing else Matters", "enter sandman" etc..etc...It was a revolution..what a shift in the atmosphere of the rooms that we used to hang about. From the normal sallu/ shahrukh numbers that everyone used to listen to, focus shifted to Hard rock and everyone enjoyed it. And since that day, i have atleast in the 4 years of my college listened 95% of the times to only Rock (be it soft or hard)..
And then again, there was a turn of circumstances...and i was in this group in blore where none listened to anything but the songs of "BOYS" (eniku oru girlfriend venamada;-)) and i started listening to that and many more tamil songs..in fact the 3 other guys whom i shared rooms with were also tamilians and i ended up listening (the 3 months of my infy Training) only to Tamil songs of the latest movies....and i used to watch tamil movies on CD / theatre as well...I may look like a guy who can be easily influenced by others / surroundings..hmmm - that may be true but then i would like to look at it as I am an extremely adaptable person who blend in easily with his surroundings and can go to either extremes..WOW!!aint i feeling good about myself.
This actually makes me wonder what would have happened if there were only Self appraisals in the companies.. Man, every tom, dick and harry would have been a Bill Gates in his or her own way. Who would like putting himself / herself down in front of others...oopss..work came in...gotta go...
Have a grt weekend!! Bubye!!
Never thought that 1 yr into work and i would be doing analysis..and though i have just got into the analysis phase, i am already startin to like development better where your PM / ML (module leader) gives u a KT (Knowledge transfer) and you can just bombard them with questions and keep going back to them for more n more clarifications n doubts. And yeah then there is the development phase which though can get boring is much more challenging than analysis..i guess...;-)In the analysis stage, the only ppl whom u can approach with your doubts are the clients and that , trust me, at times gives u the shivers..the various questions they shoot back at you..and there are moments when u dont know what to answer..for all you know , your colleague working in the same project may have told something quite contradictory to what you are about to say..anyway..Jo Hoga dekha jaayega!!! Hope n pray i dont do any blunders in the analysis stage..coz if i do then this would not be realised till about half way into development and then reverting back from whatever i had commited is going to cost me my job/ my career and prob loss to the company and what not..!!Ok - its not like i am plannin to stick to one company for my entire life span but even then, a sort of commitment to the company u working for right now..after all i am where i am , what i am due to this company as of now..right?:-)
The weekend is here..dont have much plans..my room mates srijith n basu are on-call and in-office respectively. So this weekend i would be spending my time doin my mock tests for GMAT, watchin telly, listening to music and sleepin away to glory.Speaking of Music, been real long since i heard some rock. I believe its the situation, the place where you are, the kind of friends that one has which influences your various tastes in life..be it music, eating habits, the language u use (the slang rather)..when i joined my college 5 years back, i only used to listen to limited Hindi songs, and once in a blue moon English ones (likes of BSB, Bzone etc..) but then once into college, i was introduced into the world of Rock by none other than Naveen Babu Bitla who down the lane turned out to be a very good friend of mine. This guy was probably the only one who heard the likes of Metallice, Iron Maiden etc. in our first yr batch. And i still remember that day when we were havin a party in Adarsh's room. I guess it was his bday (Oct.3)..when this guy walks in . We introduce each other..and then he makes us all listen to the rock that he listens to daily..and lo!!in a span of probably less than 3 months, you had almost an entire batch of students listening to "Nothing else Matters", "enter sandman" etc..etc...It was a revolution..what a shift in the atmosphere of the rooms that we used to hang about. From the normal sallu/ shahrukh numbers that everyone used to listen to, focus shifted to Hard rock and everyone enjoyed it. And since that day, i have atleast in the 4 years of my college listened 95% of the times to only Rock (be it soft or hard)..
And then again, there was a turn of circumstances...and i was in this group in blore where none listened to anything but the songs of "BOYS" (eniku oru girlfriend venamada;-)) and i started listening to that and many more tamil songs..in fact the 3 other guys whom i shared rooms with were also tamilians and i ended up listening (the 3 months of my infy Training) only to Tamil songs of the latest movies....and i used to watch tamil movies on CD / theatre as well...I may look like a guy who can be easily influenced by others / surroundings..hmmm - that may be true but then i would like to look at it as I am an extremely adaptable person who blend in easily with his surroundings and can go to either extremes..WOW!!aint i feeling good about myself.
This actually makes me wonder what would have happened if there were only Self appraisals in the companies.. Man, every tom, dick and harry would have been a Bill Gates in his or her own way. Who would like putting himself / herself down in front of others...oopss..work came in...gotta go...
Have a grt weekend!! Bubye!!
Tuesday, September 21, 2004
VAMPIRE!!
You're a Vampire. Vampires were the creatures of
the night that were believed to live off of
human blood. Count Dracula, being the most
famous vampire, set the stereotype. They had
dark hair and pale skin from being away from
the sunlight. If they actually existed, it's
very possible they had the skin disease that
made you allergic to the sun so whenever the
sunlight would hit it, it would hurt like
crazy. They were usually snobbish and control
freaks and kept werewolves as pets. (If you
cannot see the picture, go to my userpage and
look near the bottom. There should be the
picture and description for all the results)
What Mystical Creature Are You? (Pictures)
Wednesday, September 15, 2004
Past 1 month
Been one solid month since i blogged and about 1.5 months since i stopped bloggin on a daily basis..Life has been very very busy for me the past month or so. Was into the implementation / project set up of this particular project in Business Objects, which consumed my time right from 9:00 am in the morning till 7:00 pm atleast and then once that was done, i would too tired to do anything at all for the day. Just wanted to get back home n crash. Just lie on the bed..read something..and happily sleep.
Well the implementation part of the above mentioned project got on to a steady state about last month end and things slowly were getting even paced and voila!!i was put into this new project, where in I have to start from scratch. Right now we (myself and Srijith) are doing the requirement gathering / analysis..and once that is done, will have to propose an ideal tactical solution and then one of us would be goin to blore for the development phase while the other stayed on here or London. This new project is outside the current dept of RBS. We will be working for another department all together and we were to be ideally based in London but then since our previous project (my first one) is going LIVE next weekend, we have been asked to stay on here for Production support and for any subsequent problems that might crop up!!!Right now i am 100% into this new project while Srijith is 50%.
Happenings in life...nothing much other than for the fact that myself and basu shifted into Srijith's house. This is a new house with 2 bedrooms, a kitchen, hall and a bathroom. And we have als got cable TV now..so the time flies after getting back home just switching channels and not really watching anything in particular.
My weight has become steady and not increasing..but then thinking of it..it aint decreasing either....
last weekend, one of my colleagues - Parveen - was leaving to Cardiff for a new assignment. So the Infoscions in Edinburgh had a bachelor's party and boy didnt we enjoy. Atleast i did. Danced a real lot as it is very evident in the snaps. Anyway had a grt time after really long time.
Other than that couple of weeks back (August last weekend), had gone to Isle of skye. About 6 of us in a Merc C class. There were 3 guys - myself, srijith and Basu and 3 girls - Priti, Madhuri and Sapna. We thought the car was big enough to accomodate everyone but then we realised our folly a bit too late. We went yet again to Inverness & Fort Williams(which included the trip to Ben Nevis as well) en'route isle.This was a good trip> Being the second trip to this place, there was nothing new to appreciate but the scenic beauty. The thrill of driving was also not much since the Merc C- class was auto geared. Frankly the legs used to get numb having just one pressed on the accelerator which would get locked as well if u maintained the same speed over a period of time. So imagine driving a car to the highlands with both of ur legs curled up under u and hands on the steering...:-) reminded me of my childhood days when before my dad started the car, i would be kneeling on the driver's seat (to get a view of the front) and just holding the steering n turning it either ways and making the vrrroommmmmmmmm..bbbbbbrrrrrrrr...sounds from my mouth trying to mimick the start of a car and its driving. In this case i didnt have to put even that effort of makin a sound...he he:-)))))))
Hmmm...my scope of giving CAT this year has gone down the drain. I sent in my application but have my doubts if it would have reached before Sept 10th or not. Anyway have got the GMAT Princeton review / Barrons books n CD's. Have started on the prep for GMAT. Will have to book a date in the next 2 months time as well..so that i can apply to the universities here for the course next Fall. Just hope that i get a scholarship for which again i have to prove my credentials. Lot of things to be cleared and applications to be submitted and the first step in this direction is getting a good GMAT n TOEFL score.Thats it for today!!
Hopefully i should start blogging on a daily basis once again. Keeping my fingers crossed for everything:-)
CHeers!
Well the implementation part of the above mentioned project got on to a steady state about last month end and things slowly were getting even paced and voila!!i was put into this new project, where in I have to start from scratch. Right now we (myself and Srijith) are doing the requirement gathering / analysis..and once that is done, will have to propose an ideal tactical solution and then one of us would be goin to blore for the development phase while the other stayed on here or London. This new project is outside the current dept of RBS. We will be working for another department all together and we were to be ideally based in London but then since our previous project (my first one) is going LIVE next weekend, we have been asked to stay on here for Production support and for any subsequent problems that might crop up!!!Right now i am 100% into this new project while Srijith is 50%.
Happenings in life...nothing much other than for the fact that myself and basu shifted into Srijith's house. This is a new house with 2 bedrooms, a kitchen, hall and a bathroom. And we have als got cable TV now..so the time flies after getting back home just switching channels and not really watching anything in particular.
My weight has become steady and not increasing..but then thinking of it..it aint decreasing either....
last weekend, one of my colleagues - Parveen - was leaving to Cardiff for a new assignment. So the Infoscions in Edinburgh had a bachelor's party and boy didnt we enjoy. Atleast i did. Danced a real lot as it is very evident in the snaps. Anyway had a grt time after really long time.
Other than that couple of weeks back (August last weekend), had gone to Isle of skye. About 6 of us in a Merc C class. There were 3 guys - myself, srijith and Basu and 3 girls - Priti, Madhuri and Sapna. We thought the car was big enough to accomodate everyone but then we realised our folly a bit too late. We went yet again to Inverness & Fort Williams(which included the trip to Ben Nevis as well) en'route isle.This was a good trip> Being the second trip to this place, there was nothing new to appreciate but the scenic beauty. The thrill of driving was also not much since the Merc C- class was auto geared. Frankly the legs used to get numb having just one pressed on the accelerator which would get locked as well if u maintained the same speed over a period of time. So imagine driving a car to the highlands with both of ur legs curled up under u and hands on the steering...:-) reminded me of my childhood days when before my dad started the car, i would be kneeling on the driver's seat (to get a view of the front) and just holding the steering n turning it either ways and making the vrrroommmmmmmmm..bbbbbbrrrrrrrr...sounds from my mouth trying to mimick the start of a car and its driving. In this case i didnt have to put even that effort of makin a sound...he he:-)))))))
Hmmm...my scope of giving CAT this year has gone down the drain. I sent in my application but have my doubts if it would have reached before Sept 10th or not. Anyway have got the GMAT Princeton review / Barrons books n CD's. Have started on the prep for GMAT. Will have to book a date in the next 2 months time as well..so that i can apply to the universities here for the course next Fall. Just hope that i get a scholarship for which again i have to prove my credentials. Lot of things to be cleared and applications to be submitted and the first step in this direction is getting a good GMAT n TOEFL score.Thats it for today!!
Hopefully i should start blogging on a daily basis once again. Keeping my fingers crossed for everything:-)
CHeers!
Friday, August 20, 2004
Chicken Soup for the Soul
The Worm
By Julie Long
I couldn't put the worm on. I prided myself on being a tomboy - I
hated Barbies and baths, and loved climbing trees and playing with Tonka trucks -
but something about sticking a hook through a wiggling worm gave me the heebie-
jeebies. Dad had somehow understood, but how could I tell old Mr. Lyons,
who never had any kids? I almost hadn't gone fishing with him because of it,
but Mom talked me into it. Then, the closer we got to the river, the more it
worried me. It was nice of Mr. Lyons to take me fishing. Since my dad had died the
fall before, it was just my mom and us four girls, and I knew we wouldn't go
fishing or camping or canoeing anymore.
I missed my dad and had taken to hanging around Mr. Lyons's yard as he
worked on building his houseboat. I loved the smell of sawdust and stain -
a scent that was fading from my dad's unused workshop. I think Mr. Lyons
liked my company, too. He'd be hammering a nail or planing wood with his eyes
squinting in concentration until his dog Brownie would announce my arrival with a
bark. When he'd look up and see it was me, he'd set his tools down and scratch his
gray, scruffy chin and say he was glad I came by because he needed a break.Mr.Lyons had finished the houseboat in the spring, and he'd already taken it down to the river.He pulled the truck up next to the houseboat.
"Well, how's she look?"
"Real nice, Mr. Lyons."
"We'll just fish right off the front bow. It's nice and shady there.
The fish'll be keeping cool and waiting for a worm to wiggle on by."
We got the fishing poles out of the bed of the Ford. Mine was just the bamboo pole I had dug out from the camping supplies in the basement. Dad had tried to teach me how to cast his rod and reel but I had tangled the line up something awful. Maybe now that I had turned eleven I'd have better luck. Mr. Lyons reached back in the truck bed for the tackle box, then reached in again and handed me the Styrofoam container of worms. I followed him down the bank and onto the boat, keeping an eye that the lid stayed on. Once on the bow, Mr. Lyons started getting everything set up. Any minute now I'd have to admit to him my aversion to worms. Then he'd probably never ask me to go fishing again. He handed me my pole, then set the container between us and fished out a worm for his pole. Then, just when I was ready to confess, Mr.Lyons confessed to me instead.
"Always hate this part," he mumbled as he held the worm in one hand and his hook in the other. "It's silly, but stickin' the poor little guy with a hook makes me feel, I dunno what you'd call it. . . ."
"Like you have the heebie-jeebies?" I offered hopefully.
"That's it exactly. The heebie-jeebies. You get 'em, too?"
"A little," I admitted, relief washing over me.
"Yeah. I guess sometimes we gotta go through the bad to get to the good. Want me to hook your worm for ya?"
There it was. My way out. All I had to say was "yes" and I'd be off
the hook and my worm would be on. But I felt bad making Mr. Lyons put the worm
on if he hated it as much as me. So I reached into the cool dirt and picked up a
fat worm between my fingers. I tried not to think about how slimy it felt as I
quickly poked the hook through its middle and wiped my hand on my jeans.
I had done it! It definitely gave me the heebie-jeebies, but I had
gotten through it. I looked up at Mr. Lyons. He gave me a wink. I grinned with
pride and tossed my line in the water. The bad part was over.Today, of course, I realize my mom must have shared my problem with Mr.Lyons;
I'm fairly certain he didn't have a case of the heebie-jeebies at all.But I also know that he helped me grasp, on a child's level, the principle of persevering through the bad to get to the good. My mom and sisters and I never did fish together again; the days of camping and canoeing died with my father.But we struggled through the grief and, when we got through the bad, we eventually found other good times to enjoy as a family. And I continued to fish with Mr. Lyons . . . and bait my own hook.
By Julie Long
I couldn't put the worm on. I prided myself on being a tomboy - I
hated Barbies and baths, and loved climbing trees and playing with Tonka trucks -
but something about sticking a hook through a wiggling worm gave me the heebie-
jeebies. Dad had somehow understood, but how could I tell old Mr. Lyons,
who never had any kids? I almost hadn't gone fishing with him because of it,
but Mom talked me into it. Then, the closer we got to the river, the more it
worried me. It was nice of Mr. Lyons to take me fishing. Since my dad had died the
fall before, it was just my mom and us four girls, and I knew we wouldn't go
fishing or camping or canoeing anymore.
I missed my dad and had taken to hanging around Mr. Lyons's yard as he
worked on building his houseboat. I loved the smell of sawdust and stain -
a scent that was fading from my dad's unused workshop. I think Mr. Lyons
liked my company, too. He'd be hammering a nail or planing wood with his eyes
squinting in concentration until his dog Brownie would announce my arrival with a
bark. When he'd look up and see it was me, he'd set his tools down and scratch his
gray, scruffy chin and say he was glad I came by because he needed a break.Mr.Lyons had finished the houseboat in the spring, and he'd already taken it down to the river.He pulled the truck up next to the houseboat.
"Well, how's she look?"
"Real nice, Mr. Lyons."
"We'll just fish right off the front bow. It's nice and shady there.
The fish'll be keeping cool and waiting for a worm to wiggle on by."
We got the fishing poles out of the bed of the Ford. Mine was just the bamboo pole I had dug out from the camping supplies in the basement. Dad had tried to teach me how to cast his rod and reel but I had tangled the line up something awful. Maybe now that I had turned eleven I'd have better luck. Mr. Lyons reached back in the truck bed for the tackle box, then reached in again and handed me the Styrofoam container of worms. I followed him down the bank and onto the boat, keeping an eye that the lid stayed on. Once on the bow, Mr. Lyons started getting everything set up. Any minute now I'd have to admit to him my aversion to worms. Then he'd probably never ask me to go fishing again. He handed me my pole, then set the container between us and fished out a worm for his pole. Then, just when I was ready to confess, Mr.Lyons confessed to me instead.
"Always hate this part," he mumbled as he held the worm in one hand and his hook in the other. "It's silly, but stickin' the poor little guy with a hook makes me feel, I dunno what you'd call it. . . ."
"Like you have the heebie-jeebies?" I offered hopefully.
"That's it exactly. The heebie-jeebies. You get 'em, too?"
"A little," I admitted, relief washing over me.
"Yeah. I guess sometimes we gotta go through the bad to get to the good. Want me to hook your worm for ya?"
There it was. My way out. All I had to say was "yes" and I'd be off
the hook and my worm would be on. But I felt bad making Mr. Lyons put the worm
on if he hated it as much as me. So I reached into the cool dirt and picked up a
fat worm between my fingers. I tried not to think about how slimy it felt as I
quickly poked the hook through its middle and wiped my hand on my jeans.
I had done it! It definitely gave me the heebie-jeebies, but I had
gotten through it. I looked up at Mr. Lyons. He gave me a wink. I grinned with
pride and tossed my line in the water. The bad part was over.Today, of course, I realize my mom must have shared my problem with Mr.Lyons;
I'm fairly certain he didn't have a case of the heebie-jeebies at all.But I also know that he helped me grasp, on a child's level, the principle of persevering through the bad to get to the good. My mom and sisters and I never did fish together again; the days of camping and canoeing died with my father.But we struggled through the grief and, when we got through the bad, we eventually found other good times to enjoy as a family. And I continued to fish with Mr. Lyons . . . and bait my own hook.
Friday, August 13, 2004
I am Back
wow....it seems so good to be back n writing some crap or the other here..i was getting tired of writing formal mails, coordinating stuff, attendin audio calls, telecons and what not...Those few moments of spare time i used to feel i was running this company
man...past 10 days, i have been up and on my toes, running around, chasing ppl, getting them to do the work getting the infrastructure in place, checking the connections...yeah yeah..i have been workin more like a guy from the CSG (Computer Support Group) of my college or as my friends nicknamed me here - CCD simliar to CSG:-) at times it was fun...just attending calls, audio conferences and talking to ppl..interacting with them..- which in fact is my hobby...but then at times...used to feel sick doing this work, felt like a coolie;-)
anyway just want to crash for the weekend now..though that aint possible since i am working tomo:-(
chau all you out there!!!
man...past 10 days, i have been up and on my toes, running around, chasing ppl, getting them to do the work getting the infrastructure in place, checking the connections...yeah yeah..i have been workin more like a guy from the CSG (Computer Support Group) of my college or as my friends nicknamed me here - CCD simliar to CSG:-) at times it was fun...just attending calls, audio conferences and talking to ppl..interacting with them..- which in fact is my hobby...but then at times...used to feel sick doing this work, felt like a coolie;-)
anyway just want to crash for the weekend now..though that aint possible since i am working tomo:-(
chau all you out there!!!
Monday, August 02, 2004
check it out!
Just read this article on "Give everything YOU CAN to everyone YOU KNOW".
Got link into that site from Ashik.
A very good read. One of the best i have read. Enjoy and understand the philosophy of life:-) and try following it buddies!!
Got link into that site from Ashik.
A very good read. One of the best i have read. Enjoy and understand the philosophy of life:-) and try following it buddies!!
Be positive
Arthur Ashe, the legendary Wimbledon player was dying of AIDS. From
world over, he received letters from his fans, one of which
conveyed :
"Why does GOD have to select you for such a bad disease"?
To this Arthur Ashe replied:
The world over --
5 crore children start playing tennis,
50 lakh learn to play tennis,
5 lakh learn professional tennis,
50,000 come to the circuit,
5000 reach the grand slam,
50 reach Wimbeldon,
4 to semi final,
2 to the finals,
When I was holding a cup I never asked GOD "Why me?".
And today in pain I should not be asking GOD "Why me?"
Happiness keeps u Sweet,
Trials keep u Strong,
Sorrow keeps u Human ,
Failure Keeps u Humble,
Success keeps u Glowing,
But only God Keeps u Going.
Wow...an amazing read to start the week for all of us who crib to no end about trivial matters of life eh? One needs to have a strong character and mind to be positive always in life. You cant always expect to be on the happy end of life. There are gonna be tribulations and worries everytime, everywhere. Its upto each one of us to decide the way we look at our problem. 2 options is what is presented to us:
1. Fret about it. Think about the situation through out and spoil the rest of your life thinking about it alone
2. JUst think of it as something as trivial as an ant bite and just lead your life the way you want to. Be content and happy that you dont have to face the same problem every other day but only once in a while. Enjoy life.
What would you choose. Given the options, I would definitely prefer choice 2 any day.
anyway its upto you to "take the pill. The choice is yours".
Well had a quite weekend. Was at home itself sleeping half the time, reading novel the other half. On sunday myself, vinay, basu, srijith and sapna went to Princess street for window shopping mainly and i bought a sleeveless t-shirt and one half sleev t-shirt. Both GAP.. they were selling it dirt cheap - £4 only. cool eh...now all you morons out there..dont convert currency and call me rich. GAP t-shirts generally come for £25 - £40...:-)
and guess what...I HAVE STARTED JOGGING yet again. Morning got up at 6:00 am and went for ajog around 6:30..jogged for about 20- 25 min..did some stretches ( I could hear my poor body tearing) and got back home. And for the first time after day 1 in office, i reached the office today morning at arnd 8:35 am..:-))))
world over, he received letters from his fans, one of which
conveyed :
"Why does GOD have to select you for such a bad disease"?
To this Arthur Ashe replied:
The world over --
5 crore children start playing tennis,
50 lakh learn to play tennis,
5 lakh learn professional tennis,
50,000 come to the circuit,
5000 reach the grand slam,
50 reach Wimbeldon,
4 to semi final,
2 to the finals,
When I was holding a cup I never asked GOD "Why me?".
And today in pain I should not be asking GOD "Why me?"
Happiness keeps u Sweet,
Trials keep u Strong,
Sorrow keeps u Human ,
Failure Keeps u Humble,
Success keeps u Glowing,
But only God Keeps u Going.
Wow...an amazing read to start the week for all of us who crib to no end about trivial matters of life eh? One needs to have a strong character and mind to be positive always in life. You cant always expect to be on the happy end of life. There are gonna be tribulations and worries everytime, everywhere. Its upto each one of us to decide the way we look at our problem. 2 options is what is presented to us:
1. Fret about it. Think about the situation through out and spoil the rest of your life thinking about it alone
2. JUst think of it as something as trivial as an ant bite and just lead your life the way you want to. Be content and happy that you dont have to face the same problem every other day but only once in a while. Enjoy life.
What would you choose. Given the options, I would definitely prefer choice 2 any day.
anyway its upto you to "take the pill. The choice is yours".
Well had a quite weekend. Was at home itself sleeping half the time, reading novel the other half. On sunday myself, vinay, basu, srijith and sapna went to Princess street for window shopping mainly and i bought a sleeveless t-shirt and one half sleev t-shirt. Both GAP.. they were selling it dirt cheap - £4 only. cool eh...now all you morons out there..dont convert currency and call me rich. GAP t-shirts generally come for £25 - £40...:-)
and guess what...I HAVE STARTED JOGGING yet again. Morning got up at 6:00 am and went for ajog around 6:30..jogged for about 20- 25 min..did some stretches ( I could hear my poor body tearing) and got back home. And for the first time after day 1 in office, i reached the office today morning at arnd 8:35 am..:-))))
Friday, July 30, 2004
Friendship Day
Friendship day is here and i am thrown back to memories of college where we used to look forward for this day.
We here is "LEO" club of RECT. I was a member of it and God, didnt have a great group of ppl from our year in this club.
The mentionable members of this club were:
Myself (ofcourse),Remya, Shivani, Addy, Ashwin,Amrita, Susan and Thakur(Saurabh Singh currently in IIMB)..yeah thats it..you can call me biased but these were the only people whom i liked in my club...n(now dont count the number of girls in the above list - it just happens like that:-))
And we were the ones who used to organize Friendship Day in college...God and didnt we make huge profits.
Coming to think of it, we did manage to fool almost the entire college (our yr) into buying some thread pieces n a piece of paper for 10 - 20 bucks. And as far as i can remember (leave alone my close friends) none seemed to complain. Thats a commendable achievement in the art of convincing people and not getting any complaints. And we did the same thing for 4 yrs, though each time it were the first yrs who were the bakraas. What better way for a girl to approach a guy ;-)or the vice-versa than giving a friendship band (duh? band??..whatever) and asking like in the movie "Mujse Dosthi karoge".hmmmm...anyway those were the days..and ofcourse we did reap huge profits and we went on seeral trips with the loot:-)
Amazingly we were called the "Blood-sucking" club as well.This was coz our club used to conduct Blood donation camps and ask students to volunteer to give blood. Well this was for a generous cause and ppl found fault with us for the same.
Man!!the world is so damn partial you realise. You do something good for the society, everyone calls you names, abuses you and what not (as in the latter case) but you do somethin crooked, cheat all of them, swindle and whatever evil comes to mind and none even bothers...all are happy...
Makes me wonder at times...if i have to continue being honest and trustworthy, the way i am now;-) or should i becomea swindler, a cheat, a rogue...like all those millions out there who live daily cheating ppl....hmmmm....
signing off for the day with a reply that i got from one of my close friends , Sankar, when i had mailed him a "Happy friendship day"
Now if there is a second person whom i envy in his English, its him. (the first is one of my seniors - Sidin..He plays with words...juggles them around to make you laugh)
Following is the reply i got....(dont mind the praises he has for me in there...hmmm..sounding like a narcist off late)
"thanx for bein such a super friend to me.. in this ocean of a million faces, u are travellin like achilles in the blue mediterranean- in the eternal odyssey without direction that is LIFE... u have perchance come across many inevitable rocks n' boulders.. the sights of some have made u consider even alighting and taking a break..n' rarely, some that u've even decided to visit again... it is good to know that among those chosen few sandy beaches where u have not only broken ur journey but actually holidayed.. one is ME. n i treasure ur entry into my heart, where u will live forever.. :)"
Cool aint it..!!:-)Cheers all you buddies out there...
Happy Friendship day to one and all:-)
We here is "LEO" club of RECT. I was a member of it and God, didnt have a great group of ppl from our year in this club.
The mentionable members of this club were:
Myself (ofcourse),Remya, Shivani, Addy, Ashwin,Amrita, Susan and Thakur(Saurabh Singh currently in IIMB)..yeah thats it..you can call me biased but these were the only people whom i liked in my club...n(now dont count the number of girls in the above list - it just happens like that:-))
And we were the ones who used to organize Friendship Day in college...God and didnt we make huge profits.
Coming to think of it, we did manage to fool almost the entire college (our yr) into buying some thread pieces n a piece of paper for 10 - 20 bucks. And as far as i can remember (leave alone my close friends) none seemed to complain. Thats a commendable achievement in the art of convincing people and not getting any complaints. And we did the same thing for 4 yrs, though each time it were the first yrs who were the bakraas. What better way for a girl to approach a guy ;-)or the vice-versa than giving a friendship band (duh? band??..whatever) and asking like in the movie "Mujse Dosthi karoge".hmmmm...anyway those were the days..and ofcourse we did reap huge profits and we went on seeral trips with the loot:-)
Amazingly we were called the "Blood-sucking" club as well.This was coz our club used to conduct Blood donation camps and ask students to volunteer to give blood. Well this was for a generous cause and ppl found fault with us for the same.
Man!!the world is so damn partial you realise. You do something good for the society, everyone calls you names, abuses you and what not (as in the latter case) but you do somethin crooked, cheat all of them, swindle and whatever evil comes to mind and none even bothers...all are happy...
Makes me wonder at times...if i have to continue being honest and trustworthy, the way i am now;-) or should i becomea swindler, a cheat, a rogue...like all those millions out there who live daily cheating ppl....hmmmm....
signing off for the day with a reply that i got from one of my close friends , Sankar, when i had mailed him a "Happy friendship day"
Now if there is a second person whom i envy in his English, its him. (the first is one of my seniors - Sidin..He plays with words...juggles them around to make you laugh)
Following is the reply i got....(dont mind the praises he has for me in there...hmmm..sounding like a narcist off late)
"thanx for bein such a super friend to me.. in this ocean of a million faces, u are travellin like achilles in the blue mediterranean- in the eternal odyssey without direction that is LIFE... u have perchance come across many inevitable rocks n' boulders.. the sights of some have made u consider even alighting and taking a break..n' rarely, some that u've even decided to visit again... it is good to know that among those chosen few sandy beaches where u have not only broken ur journey but actually holidayed.. one is ME. n i treasure ur entry into my heart, where u will live forever.. :)"
Cool aint it..!!:-)Cheers all you buddies out there...
Happy Friendship day to one and all:-)
Thursday, July 29, 2004
Think Before you Leap
I am just sitting here...just whistling away time..thinking abt my past..abt my future..!!!How it was 10 yrs back..and how it is going to be 10 yrs from now...
I can see a small fly hovering around my nose. I have the mind to SWAT it but then I dont want to be framed as a MURDERER by the FLY community or whatever...
makes me wonder at times what if i was not what i am today...what would i have been..a fly?? Would i like being swatted down by some pesky human who was just not in the right mood and shortened my life by a day or two:-( Restlessnes, Impatience ect..are the very characteristics that describe a human when you come to think of it from an insect's point of view. Hmmm...I suddenly realise I am talking as if i am the director of SPCA.
Just pondering...you never actually lose by loving someone or something.But it is difficult to love a person, especially when you don't know how to express your feelings (How can you express your love for insects;-)?? interesting thought huh>>) Worse still, if you are unsure of the person's feelings, the uncertainty can really tear your heart - Dont think this is actually true in case of insects..but as far as humans are concerned, I can vouch that this is really tearing...that brief period of time when you dont know your possible/ probable better half's feelings for you;-)) and just hoping against hopes that she loves you the same way if not more than what you love her.
Flirting is something i guess every guy loves doing..and I was crowned in college of being an expert in it though i myself was not very sure of the same...anyway will pen down the basic points of this so called flirting..
statutory warning: I am not to be held responsible if any of the following steps fail. These have proven to be good techniques time and again by many.
Here goes:
1. Our actions speak a lot for us. The very act of getting a cup of tea for your colleague when he/ she didnt actually ask for it...is the first way to break into their region. a sign that you are open and ready for the friendship.
2. Never ask too many questions. Asking too many questions in the first couple of meetings could force the other person to roll back into her shell. She will feel as if her privacy is trying to be brooken.
3. In the first few meetings..talk quite a lot about yourself. Never get into details and bore the other person. JUst summarize the various happening of your life and you dont even have to mention about anythin personal even. If nothing intersting there...make up stories or narrate incidents from other ppl's lives ..statin them as your own.
4. Trying making the other person laugh. Make a joke at something dumb you did and laugh at yourself.Bring out the humour sense in you. Girls dig guys with good humour. The moment she laughs with you...trust me brother she is in sync with you. (Make sure that it aint a forced laugh..just for the heck of it)and once this stage is got thru, you can actually call up to meet her, just to spend some time with her and guaranteed she will be looking forward for the same too. In this busy hectic life, which girl would not like to spend some time with a guy who can make her laugh and make her forget all the worries of the world.
5. Once you are in the stage of freely callin her up and meeting her, slowly ask her questions abt her personal life...or anythin about her life...and she will start rolling out her life's movie reel to you..all the ups n downs..what she would not have shred with any other guy but her boyfriend/ husband , she may share it with you as time passes.
6. Never ever break her flow when she is talking abt her life. Learn to be a good listener. And dont break her flow of thoughts with your own dumb ideas n experiences and advices. Just give an ocassional nod supplemented by "hmmm"..."oh oh".."sheesh"..."oh my GOD"..."wow"..as per how the situation demands. Girls love being heard.(atleast most of them do)
7. Dont ever try getting physical with the girl. Wait..hover around and probably she will give in..(this never worked for me..nevertheless i still believe that given enough patience, it will work out)
8. Never give the indication that you are interested in her. Act as a normal friend. And as time goes by slowly praise her, make her feel good, give her flowers...and my Man!! She is yours...forever as a friend with whom you can talk anything n everything.
9. Dont ever brag about this girl and you in public. Dont do stupid things like giving off song dedications in her name for some function. This can really piss off the girl and all your efforts till then would have gone in vain. Rather to make yourself associated with the girl, go to places where there are lots of ppl..let them see n talk about you n her. Let the word spread by itself without any added effort from you:-)
The good part about flirting is never can the girl claim you proposed to her...and you dont have to be fixed with her and at the same time you can mate, i mean meet a lot of girls (which again makes girls fight with each other for you..though you have never evr once committed to anyone of them...)
Note: Jealousy is the one of the weakest point in any girl and you can use this as your STRONGEST weapon in wooing the girls to you. Just have to play it right.
All the best DUDES:-))) (guess i am in for a beating if all the girls whom i made friends with...read this blog;-)- mind you..I hereby declare that I NEVER FLIRTED - I just followed the above 8 steps to Success;-)9th step aint my fav point but then it just used to happen..and hence this name of flirt stuck with me...DAMN!!!)
Will wind off this writing with a touchin story. This has nothing to do with flirting but then has to do with being patient (though in completely different context and not similar to the one stated in point 7 above:-)
This is a true story that happened in the States.
A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement,his 3-yr-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, and hammered the little boy's hands into a pulp as punishment.When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke u! p from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently asked," Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck, but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home and committed suicide.!!!
Think about the story the next time u see someone spill milk at a dinner table or hear a baby crying or you think the a girl is not giving you any hints abt her feelings for you. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love/ like. Trucks can be repaired. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't and ofcourse A girl once lost...forever lost (very difficult to get her back you see).
Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever. Pause and ponder. ! Think before you act. Be patient. Understand and love.You Never Lose by Loving.
Adios!!!
I can see a small fly hovering around my nose. I have the mind to SWAT it but then I dont want to be framed as a MURDERER by the FLY community or whatever...
makes me wonder at times what if i was not what i am today...what would i have been..a fly?? Would i like being swatted down by some pesky human who was just not in the right mood and shortened my life by a day or two:-( Restlessnes, Impatience ect..are the very characteristics that describe a human when you come to think of it from an insect's point of view. Hmmm...I suddenly realise I am talking as if i am the director of SPCA.
Just pondering...you never actually lose by loving someone or something.But it is difficult to love a person, especially when you don't know how to express your feelings (How can you express your love for insects;-)?? interesting thought huh>>) Worse still, if you are unsure of the person's feelings, the uncertainty can really tear your heart - Dont think this is actually true in case of insects..but as far as humans are concerned, I can vouch that this is really tearing...that brief period of time when you dont know your possible/ probable better half's feelings for you;-)) and just hoping against hopes that she loves you the same way if not more than what you love her.
Flirting is something i guess every guy loves doing..and I was crowned in college of being an expert in it though i myself was not very sure of the same...anyway will pen down the basic points of this so called flirting..
statutory warning: I am not to be held responsible if any of the following steps fail. These have proven to be good techniques time and again by many.
Here goes:
1. Our actions speak a lot for us. The very act of getting a cup of tea for your colleague when he/ she didnt actually ask for it...is the first way to break into their region. a sign that you are open and ready for the friendship.
2. Never ask too many questions. Asking too many questions in the first couple of meetings could force the other person to roll back into her shell. She will feel as if her privacy is trying to be brooken.
3. In the first few meetings..talk quite a lot about yourself. Never get into details and bore the other person. JUst summarize the various happening of your life and you dont even have to mention about anythin personal even. If nothing intersting there...make up stories or narrate incidents from other ppl's lives ..statin them as your own.
4. Trying making the other person laugh. Make a joke at something dumb you did and laugh at yourself.Bring out the humour sense in you. Girls dig guys with good humour. The moment she laughs with you...trust me brother she is in sync with you. (Make sure that it aint a forced laugh..just for the heck of it)and once this stage is got thru, you can actually call up to meet her, just to spend some time with her and guaranteed she will be looking forward for the same too. In this busy hectic life, which girl would not like to spend some time with a guy who can make her laugh and make her forget all the worries of the world.
5. Once you are in the stage of freely callin her up and meeting her, slowly ask her questions abt her personal life...or anythin about her life...and she will start rolling out her life's movie reel to you..all the ups n downs..what she would not have shred with any other guy but her boyfriend/ husband , she may share it with you as time passes.
6. Never ever break her flow when she is talking abt her life. Learn to be a good listener. And dont break her flow of thoughts with your own dumb ideas n experiences and advices. Just give an ocassional nod supplemented by "hmmm"..."oh oh".."sheesh"..."oh my GOD"..."wow"..as per how the situation demands. Girls love being heard.(atleast most of them do)
7. Dont ever try getting physical with the girl. Wait..hover around and probably she will give in..(this never worked for me..nevertheless i still believe that given enough patience, it will work out)
8. Never give the indication that you are interested in her. Act as a normal friend. And as time goes by slowly praise her, make her feel good, give her flowers...and my Man!! She is yours...forever as a friend with whom you can talk anything n everything.
9. Dont ever brag about this girl and you in public. Dont do stupid things like giving off song dedications in her name for some function. This can really piss off the girl and all your efforts till then would have gone in vain. Rather to make yourself associated with the girl, go to places where there are lots of ppl..let them see n talk about you n her. Let the word spread by itself without any added effort from you:-)
The good part about flirting is never can the girl claim you proposed to her...and you dont have to be fixed with her and at the same time you can mate, i mean meet a lot of girls (which again makes girls fight with each other for you..though you have never evr once committed to anyone of them...)
Note: Jealousy is the one of the weakest point in any girl and you can use this as your STRONGEST weapon in wooing the girls to you. Just have to play it right.
All the best DUDES:-))) (guess i am in for a beating if all the girls whom i made friends with...read this blog;-)- mind you..I hereby declare that I NEVER FLIRTED - I just followed the above 8 steps to Success;-)9th step aint my fav point but then it just used to happen..and hence this name of flirt stuck with me...DAMN!!!)
Will wind off this writing with a touchin story. This has nothing to do with flirting but then has to do with being patient (though in completely different context and not similar to the one stated in point 7 above:-)
This is a true story that happened in the States.
A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement,his 3-yr-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, and hammered the little boy's hands into a pulp as punishment.When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke u! p from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently asked," Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck, but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home and committed suicide.!!!
Think about the story the next time u see someone spill milk at a dinner table or hear a baby crying or you think the a girl is not giving you any hints abt her feelings for you. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love/ like. Trucks can be repaired. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't and ofcourse A girl once lost...forever lost (very difficult to get her back you see).
Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever. Pause and ponder. ! Think before you act. Be patient. Understand and love.You Never Lose by Loving.
Adios!!!
Wednesday, July 28, 2004
10 years Old!!
This is the last of the testsi will be taking..............TODAY..!!really amuses me how this tests are created to derive this results and no matter what the results are, I always seem to relate to the final outcome and feel it is absolutely right..!!
My inner child is ten years old!
The adult world is pretty irrelevant to me. Whether
I'm off on my bicycle (or pony) exploring, lost
in a good book, or giggling with my best
friend, I live in a world apart, one full of
adventure and wonder and other stuff adults
don't understand.
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